Can You Really Prepare For Motherhood?

You never know where you will be 5 years from now. Sure, you can have a plan and even steps to get to that plan. But one small deviation can change where you will be 5 years later. When I think back to where I was 5 years ago, I remember being a newly-wed, enjoying a falls season in India with my new husband. I would sleep 9 hours at night and sometimes even a 2 hour nap during the day. I would bathe, eat, shop, all when I wanted to. I even remember spending 45 minutes straightening my hair (this was more than 5 years ago). All of these luxuries that I had unknowingly!

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Fast forward 5 years….

I have 2 children 4 & 1.5yrs old. My clothes are sometimes put together, sometimes not so much. I almost left my house with my sweater on inside out yesterday. I have never watched Glee. I time myself to wash dishes. And I keep a travel bottle of hairspray in my car just in case I need to pull it together before my shift at work. I’m not lying- sometimes I only have a few minutes to get ready.

If someone would have showed me a glimpse of the future 5 years ago I would have- maybe reconsidered getting married altogether. But no one did, and I am where I am. The honest truth is that I wouldn’t be anywhere else. Motherhood can be nuts. It can be unfair, exhausting, selfless, never ending, and many other horrible things. Some days I just need to get away. I can’t wait to get to work so I can have some down time. But the funny thing is, 20 minutes into my shift I’m browsing through my kids pictures on my phone, missing them, wishing I was putting them to bed.

I guess the bottom line is you can never be prepared for motherhood. You may THINK you’re prepared, but you won’t know for sure what you’re prepared for. However, I promise you one thing- you will learn to survive whatever comes your way. It’s a natural instinct! When your kid is constipated, you will search every remedy on Google. You will learn what they love and give it to them (for me, it’s putting my sons tshirts and socks in the dryer for 2 mins before I dress him. When I put his socks on or pull his tshirt down over his head, the sheer happiness he gets from the warmth is to die for). And you will fret over things you never imagined (i.e. do I dress my daughter in too much pink?? What if I make her hate the color pink when she grows up… I should buy some navy blue…).

Yes, motherhood is full of excitement. Sometimes you love it, other times you may hate it. But it honestly is what we women do best. Whether we’re prepared or not.