Happy NEW YEAR!!!! Renewal & Refocus: 5 Ways To Set A True Intention For The New Year!

The real voyage of discovery

consists not in seeking new landscapes,

but in having new eye ~ Marcel Proust

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I love the renewal of a New Year!

Leaving behind the days from the previous year and hitting “re-fresh” for new possibilities and new directions feels like a birth of a beautiful unknown. For most of us, the New Year brings a time of reflection on the past as well as an eye to the future. The gift of having another year, having more time to complete the things that are important to us, is an incredible blessing. It’s easy to slip into the same old routines and forget what’s been given to us.

For me, the New Year is about refocusing. It’s a good time to look at all the things that I can change that will make my life better. I can’t say I believe in resolutions because they seem so finite and — according to a 2007 study by Richard Wisemen from the University of Bristol — nearly 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail. So really, is there a point in making a resolution? Why not just set an intention for change and try your best to make it work?

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Here are five intentions for myself that I believe can make anyone’s New Year better.

1. Listen More. Listening is not an easy thing to do for a lot of people. Most of us want to talk. Tell the world our stories. Share what we know but how often do we take time to listen to what the world around us has to say?

2. Make Genuine Efforts to connect with Friends and Family. It’s easy to miss the bigger picture and get lost in all the things we have to do. Making real efforts for quality time is something that gets pushed aside because we all believe we have a lot of time left. What if I told you that you don’t really have that much time at all? Would you honestly try a little harder to get closer to those you love?

3. Examine the Demands You Make On Others. It’s so easy to have expectations of others and not look at how one contributes to creating difficulty in life. It’s far too easy to point the finger at others and not see the ways you may be at fault. Examining demands on others also forces you to examine yourself and what you may be asking for.

4. Say What You Mean. As every year passes, the words I say to others and what is said back to me is critical. Living in a world of false promises, it’s so important to treat the word as though your life depended on it. Not only will this make you different then those around you but it will also prove something about your character. Don’t make a promise you know you can’t keep or say something you don’t mean.

5. Be a Good Friend. Sometimes, I question if the concept of friendship has been bastardized by social networks. Friendship was the thing that poems and books were written on. It was regarded as a high form of love for another human being joined by an incredibly deep bond. By calling people we barely know “friends”, have we lost the true meaning of friendship? For me, friends call each other, drop by to see how the other is doing, share sadness and joy and understand each other deeply.