Valentine’s Day: A Rare Night Out With My Husband

The arrival of a certain day which many hate and many love is upon us. No, it’s not “reading week” nor is it Spring Break (wait, that’s not a specific day…). We all know what that day is - the day where we declare our love for our special someone. Whether you’re already in a relationship, or want to be in one, Valentine’s Day is definitely supposed to be important.

Photo courtesy of Lisa Ann Rogers

Ok, sure there are many of you out there who loath it. And believe me, when I mean loath, I mean LOATH. Words like “propaganda,” “ marketing gimmicks,” “ a money making scheme set up by retailers” are all used to describe the 14th. The argument that we do not need to be told by society when to express love to our significant others is very often put forward as well — and it should be! For me though, life is very busy. I know there are people out there who are busier than me, but my life is busy for me. I rarely get a chance to have a date with my husband. We try to have a dinner date once a month but, believe me, the last time we went out alone must have been the beginning of December.

Within the hustle and bustle of our daily routines we sometimes don’t find time to express our love to each other. It’s not something I regret, having a family is very important to me as well, and we both understand that there are not many years during which our children will be quite as dependant on us as they are now.   Soon, they won’t want us around the house and will feel relieved when we go out on our dates… I’m guessing when they are around 12-13 years of age. But for now, I actually look forward to Valentine’s Day. It’s the day I know I will get flowers and my husband and I can be all gushy and lovey with each other. Maybe there are other mom’s out there like me as well! (if so, please comment on this blog post).

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Take this upcoming Valentine’s Day for example. I am actually working on the evening of the 14th, but my husband and I have planned a dinner date for the following Saturday. We will both dress in our finest (or whatever fits).   I’ll spend a little extra time getting ready, an extra spritz of my J’adore by Christian Dior, and wear my heels. We’ll lock arms while walking and not worry about buckling kids in and out of car seats, carrying them to the restaurant, fretting over their behavior in the restaurant… just him and I. We will discuss work, and life, and maybe a possible vacation, and of course our kids. Why is it that when we are not with our kids, we end up talking about them??!   (Anyway, that sounds like it could be a whole different blog topic on it’s own).

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So yes, Valentine’s Day is overly marketed. Retailers are going to try and make as much money as they can from us consumers because, well, it’s their job! Any business would like to be as profitable as they possibly can. It’s up to us as consumers to decide what we want to spend our money on. And yes, there may be people who don’t like red roses, but I’m not one of them. Valentine’s Day is wonderful. I love that society has given me a day where I can re-declare my love for my husband, and he can do the same, without feeling bad about leaving the kids with someone or having one of them fall backwards in their high chair at a restaurant.
Happy Valentine’s Day!