The Samantha Brick Controversy

Samantha Brick (Daily Mail)

Ever heard of Samantha Brick? I hadn’t either up until a few hours ago. She is a journalist who thinks she’s pretty — so pretty that she believes her friends are threatened by her. None of her friends have asked her to be a bridesmaid, she hasn’t been offered promotions from her female bosses, and her friendships with married women only last a short while because she thinks they are worried their husbands will become unfaithful. Now I don’t mean to be rude, but seriously Samantha Brick? Is it at all possible that two friends may change and go in different directions? People grow, friends come and go. There was a time in my life when I thought friends were forever, but as the years have passed, I have learned otherwise. There are no relationships that last forever, however there are some that last longer than others. For me that consists of family. The family members whom I grew up with are the ones I have maintained relationships with. I’m not saying that Samantha Brick is not pretty, she is attractive, but not someone I would say is a threat. I’m more of a Mila Jovovich or Mila Kunis, or Jessica Alba admirer myself. And while confidence is definitely sexy, arrogance is a major turn off for men and women alike.

Here’s what she ACTUALLY said:

I'm not smug and I'm no flirt, yet over the years I've been dropped by countless friends who felt threatened if I was merely in the presence of their other halves. If their partners dared to actually talk to me, a sudden chill would descend on the room.
And it is not just jealous wives who have frozen me out of their lives. Insecure female bosses have also barred me from promotions at work.
And most poignantly of all, not one girlfriend has ever asked me to be her bridesmaid.

Photo courtesy of Maegan Tintari

And although there may be SOME truth to what she is saying, there’s another fact I would like to point out. I may not think she is attractive, but what men think is sexy or hot is NOT the same as what women think is sexy and hot. There are some women who I would "go gay" for, but when I confessed to my husband he thought I was delusional. So what DO men like? I have no idea. Apparently men like Samantha.

Samantha Brick assures her readers that she’s no flirt, but many flirtatious women don’t realize that they are flirtatious. Flirting doesn’t have to be an exchange of words. Less conspicuous interactions, like a well timed glance or a batting of the eyes, can be even more flirtatious. My colleague and founder of Lipstick and Politics, Mira Veda, has written an excellent article about flirting.

Photo courtesy of Marion Doss

Yes, I confess there may be some truth to Samantha’s very bold statement, however I don’t think it’s based on how pretty she is. She needs to assess her personality and ask herself if there is something that she does to bother these people who remove themselves from her life. Then again,this may all be just another publicity stunt, in which case, she has done a great job.